Is independence empowering?

I like to think of myself as a pretty independent person which can be extremely empowering to me. A person who can make her own decisions, be responsible for her own success, and can go out on her own and do her own thing. I hate relying on people and not being able to make my own decisions.

And what about when it comes to being independent in relationships? I totally support that 100%. Obviously, a relationship is between two people, and you can’t be selfish. But, being selfish and independent are two different things. In a relationship I can still make my own decisions. I can still go out on my own without my boyfriend. I can still earn my own money, and not rely on my boyfriend’s; and likewise spend money on him too.

One of the things I’ve always wanted to be is a strong, independent woman. I don’t like being told that I can’t do something because of my gender, or being told that I am not capable enough to make my own decisions.

I am not even saying this because I label myself as a Feminist. I just feel like independence is such an amazing and empowering feeling. I will never let anyone tell me what I can or can’t do, and I will never let anyone put me down for being a woman. I am more than capable of looking after myself, just as much as a male is. My gender does not determine how independent I can or can’t be either.

Because I am strong and independent, I will live my life how I want. I will strive to reach my own goals, ignoring others opinions. I will stick to the person I want to be, and get out there and meet new people and make new friends without relying on anyone else. In every relationship I get in, I will still uphold and stick to this belief; yet still be in a relationship with partnership, and still have my own unique identity.

I am happy in my own vision of myself and who I want to be, with being independent being one of my most empowering features. I’m happy in not relying on others, I’m happy in having own opinions and view on things and not being influenced by others. I’m happy in being my own liberated and empowered person and just a strong, independent woman.

Being independent is a good thing. It does not mean I am ‘stuck up’ or ‘stubborn.’

Independent: 1. free from outside control; not subject to another’s authority. 2. not depending on another for livelihood or subsistence.

Love and happiness always,

xo, Becca


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29 thoughts on “Is independence empowering?

  1. Yes! Couldn’t agree more with you girl! I hate being put down or told what I can’t do! It makes me so much more determined to achieve it! Being strong, independent and confident is so inspiring to others because everyone can achieve it with the right mindset!x

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  2. I love this blog post so much! It is so interesting and important to talk about topics like this. It is posts like this that help the world become a better place! X

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  3. I think that independence is so important and that it is especially important for young ladies. Society tells us far too often that we need to depend on other people – I love your post on this! 🙂


  4. Independence is SO important!
    Whether it be in a relationship with a boyfriend or friendships, don’t let anyone tell you what to do, don’t let them control you and mostly don’t let them put you down for being you!

    Anna | FarewellMay

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  5. This is such an important thing to remember. It’s so easy to get caught up in a relationship and let them make all the decisions for you, but it’s so freeing to be in charge of yourself. You have a lot more to bring to a relationship if you’re a whole, full, capable person than if you’re just under someone’s shadow.

    Thanks for this post 🙂
    Beth x

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  6. I LOVE THIS POST. This is such a powerful post that I think so many people need to read. I always thought it was important to be independent before but now I will feel strong whilst doing so. Thank you for inspiring me with your wonderful post 💕
    Lia x

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