Life is what you make it

“Life is what you make it” is the type of philosophy I have based my life around at the moment. I have began to realise that if I want to do something, I should just do it because nothing is stopping me from doing what I want with my own life. Whether that’s getting a tattoo I’ve wanted for so long, cutting out people in my life who simply aren’t good for me, or even dancing like the world will never end because guess what? I can and I will.

“So, do it. Decide. Is this the life you want to live? Is this the person you want to love? Is this the best you can be? Can you be stronger? Kinder? More compassionate? Decide. Breathe in. Breathe out and decide.”

In my experience, life is too short to not live it to the fullest. To live it ‘loving’ someone you no longer love, and alternately, ‘not loving’ someone you want to love. Forget judgement and constraints. There really is no such word as ‘I can’t’ if you put your mind to it.

Let’s put it this way, if you want something, reach for it and get it. Don’t stop until you get what you deserve. I have recently realised that you can’t make someone want or miss you, or even force someone to stay in your life. But you can make your intentions clear. Say things before it’s too late or before you regret it, you never know what could happen tomorrow. Why wait?

I’ve recently become intrigued by Rupi Kaur’s collection of poetry, Milk and Honey. One of my most favourite pieces from this book states that, “don’t mistake salt for sugar. If he wants to be with you, he will. It’s that simple.” If you want to be with someone, you’ll find a way. You’ll find a way to think about what’s actually right for you. And you’ll get there if it’s meant to happen.

And above all else? Have fun, and live your life. Wear what you want, smile. Laugh like it’s the only thing you know how to do. Don’t let anyone put you down for whatever makes you happy. If catching Pokemon, playing video games or looking at the sky makes you happy then embrace that above all else. Love like it’s the only thing in this world you know how to. Put your time and energy into the people who mean the most to you regardless of the past. Aim for your goals, and don’t stop until you achieve them. Be the best person you can be, and be happy and healthy.

From today, I will have no regrets. If I end up falling for someone again, I’ll tell them. I’ll be happy in rekindling lost relationships and meeting new people and discovering new wonders of life. I certainly will not let societal expectations stop me from living my life I want, or stop me from saying things to people who I love the most. There’s no point spending your life surrounded by people who make you feel less than you deserve, and neglecting those who would give you the world.

And because life is what I make it, I have recently discovered how amazing writing poetry, and writing in general can be. It opens up so many doors to my thoughts and feelings, so here’s a small section of something I recently wrote. I have no shame in my feelings and I have no shame in making something beautiful out of a painful situation that had emotionally killed me.

That’s the thing. I had to let you go. I had to push my desires aside and let you live. Let you experience life and love without me. Let you heal. Because at the end of the day, all I wanted was for you to be happy. I’ll always love and care. But I had to let go and disappear. And whoever comes along and loves you more than I did do? That’s competition. But cherish her. Because that’s a number bigger than all infinities. 

Love and happiness always,

xo, Becca


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35 thoughts on “Life is what you make it

  1. I love this post. Really got me thinking. And you’re completely right. I’m going to make more of an effort to actually live my life and do the things I want to do. I’m going to be brave and go somewhere on my own because I CAN, even if the thought scares the hell out of me. Thank you for inspiring and motivating me! Xx
    P.s I don’t blog at just captivates anymore in case you’re wondering. It’s my old blog when I was testing the waters. I’m now over at Come chat anytime hun xx

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  2. This was really lovely to read, and it’s all so true! I quite often stop myself from doing what I want out of fear of what others will think, but it’s my life and I have to do what’s gonna make me happy. I love your positivity, keep these awesome posts coming! : )
    Steph x.

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  3. Absolutely love this! Definitely the best post I have read in a while! Agree with everything you said and life is so precious and people should do things to make them happy

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  4. I love this post. I sometimes don’t do things I’d like to do out of fear of what others might think and fear of failing, but I’m trying to get rid of that attitude. In fact, my therapist made me write a list of things I need to do in order to become a happier person, and one of the items was “In order to be happy I have to live my life as if no one is watching.”

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  5. I couldn’t agree more with you Becca!
    Over this past couple of years I’ve finally learned to live my life how I want to and most importanly, live my life not caring what others think.
    I have so many people around me that won’t ever be themselves living in this fear of what other people may think or say. It honestly makes me mad. Everyone should be proud of being their true selves.
    I also love that statement form Milk and Honey.
    I’m still trying to live life with no regrets and at its fullest and I’m really trying to stop overthinking everything..

    I loved reading this xxx

    Sofia |

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