Life is funny isn’t it? We spend our lives being our own individual self with our own personalities, likes and dislikes. A couple of months ago especially, was when I decided it was time to revamp my life and give myself a new perspective on life in general.
I decided that it was time for a change- and that includes a change in myself and my mindset. I’ve always been quite a sensitive person, but I’d like to think that over the past month or so; I have slowly formed a ‘thicker skin’ and not let things get to me as much as they used to. Of course, I still get hurt and upset about some things; but certainly not as much as I used to. I’m so glad that I’m at a point where I’m so confident in myself, that other perceptions of me simply don’t matter anymore.
I always used to look at people and be like, “How can I be as confident as you? Why can’t I have no insecurities and be like the ‘confident’ people?” In fact, I read this from one of my diary entries from January of this year when I was feeling low one night. I soon realised that the only person who can be in charge of my self confidence is me. Fast forward nearly 8 months and I have never been so confident and empowered in my own body. Considering I hated looking at myself in the mirror three months ago (sounds like a cliche, but trust me it was bad), I am at a point now where I’m happy to go swimming because my body is my own and I’m super proud of it.
When it comes to communicating with people in general, I love it. I thrive off meeting new people, and making new friends. I realised that I not only want to surround myself with people, but positive influences in my life. That meant separating myself from people who are simply toxic and who I don’t need around me. Trust me, having the strength to do that is the best decision I ever made. I now have the bestest friends I could ever wish for in my life (personal shoutout to Caitlin, Richard, Chloe, Myah, Alex, Callum, Jess, Georgia, Koryn and co; you all know who you are). I’m also constantly adding new amazing people into my life, and it’s so uplifting to have people who accept me, for me.
When I say I couldn’t be happier with my life at the moment, I mean it. I am so overwhelmed with my progress and how much work I have mentally put in to be this happy and calm. And why I chose to revamp my life? Because I soon began to realise that my life is my own, and no one else’s. I am my own longest commitment at the end of the day; so why not make my life the best it can be? I want to be nothing but kind and compassionate to others. I want to forgive, but not be naive. I want to be proud of the person I’m becoming, and I want to keep doing better and being better.
So what’s next for me? The simple answer is, I don’t know. But I know that I will continue to be the best person I can be. I don’t care how cliche that sounds, but I have realised over the past few months that I can be whoever I want to be, and even though my personal goals may change again in another few months, where I am now is the best place I’ve ever been.
Love and happiness always,
xo, Becca
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Loved reading this post! Wish you all the best for the future but I’m sure you won’t need it anyway!
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Thank you lovely! X
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this is a lovely post – I wish I had more confidence in myself, time to make a change xo
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Change can start from today lovely, you can do it. Take it one day at a time X
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The main thing is being 100% happy with you, everybody has down days it’s just part of life! love how honest you are X
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Thank you so much lovely! The main thing definitely is being happy & getting through the “off” days X
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I love your blog posts, you spread so much positivity and self love and it helps me love myself and feel more positive in myself so thank you x
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That makes me so happy!! I’m so glad my lil blog helps X
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Love this! It makes me so happy that you are feel happy! X
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Thank you so much lovely! Hope you’re all good too X
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Yeees! It’s all about perspective. As soon as you change how you think, the whole world changes!
Good for you!
Lorna | eatmyyythoughts.blogspot.co.uk
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Thank you so much! You’re definitely right X
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Love this blog babe, your blogs are so enjoyable to read. Keep being positive 🙂 Pixie xx http://pixieox.co
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Thank you so much lovely! X
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This is such a positive post! Keep going girl you’re doing great, it can only go up from here 😚 x
Anna | http://www.farewellmay.co.uk
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Definitely!! I’m just taking each day at a time X
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This post is just amaizing, I’m so happy for you and hope you’ll always be as happy and calm as you are right now xoxo
Todaysouhaila.blogspot.com
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Thank you so much lovely! Hope you’re all good too X
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This is such a lovely post, think it’s so important to always try be the best version of yourself! Great read!
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I absolutely love this! Love how you’re spreading all of these positive messages x
simplykarun.blogspot.co.uk
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Thank you so much lovely- that’s what I aim to do! X
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This post is incredible and I think a lot of people need to read this to be shown it can be done!
chasingmydesire.com
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Absolutely loved reading this post and so happy that you are happy with your life and glad of the changes you made! Keep going lovely!
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Great post! Very glad you’re feeling much more confident.
Maybe in a future post you could share some tips on how you achieved your confidence?
I wrote an “A-Z of Happiness” post with tips about maintaining happiness, confidence and self-care if you want to have a read! Xx
https://wunms.co.uk/2016/07/09/the-a-z-of-happiness-challenge/
Wunmi @ wunms.co.uk
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Brilliant post! Makes you realise how much you value and appreciate your life. 🙂
Keep on being positive and have a sprinkle of glitter everywhere you go! xo
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I love this! Congrats on developing into the new person you want to be, and for spreading such positivity!
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Thank you so much lovely! X
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Your 17??? So young( im 21 not much older) i remember feeling the same way at your age, still struggle with it now. Not sure when my insecurity started but im trying change that! Love how you got personal on your blog 🙂
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Yes I am! I’m 18 in 2 weeks though, hopefully won’t be the “baby” for much longer! Thank you for the lovely feedback X
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Wow it’s great that you’re feeling more positive! What was it that changed your mindset?
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Getting hurt by the people I love was one of the reasons! I realised that I WANT to come back from the hurt and do better and BE better. Looks like it worked! X
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Such a lovely post, its so nice that you are spreading positivity! xox
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Been thinking the same! in need of some serious revamp and declutter!! thankyou for the motivation lovely! xx
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You’re welcome- good luck!! Revamping your life now and then is definitely a good, healthy option X
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Sometimes we all need to make changes even if we don’t realise it, but it’s great that you’re able to make these changes and become the person you want to be!
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That’s awesome Becca! I love reading about people’s journey to self-confidence. It’s a journey that I too have embarked on, and let me say, it’s been the best decision of my life. Building a strong relationship with yourself is so important. When you know and believe that you’re beautiful and worth everything, you truly shine.
Kathlyn | Kathlyn’s Korner
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Good luck! Hope everything goes well for you!
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This was such a lovely and uplifting read! Just to know that we all have the power to be in control of our own happiness and our own lives – sometimes this is easy to forget so thank you for reminding me!
Freya – sashasnookblog.blogspot.com
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I love reading posts like this and seeing how people change and become the beautiful them they deserve to be. As someone who frequently has moments like these in my lowest points, it’s honestly refreshing to see more and more people chatting about things like this. I hope your support continues and helps you thrive in everything.
●ω● | Waiting for June
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Love this post! Inspired me to change up my lifestyle!
Lauren | laurmatthews.blogspot.com
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As per, this is beautiful. Very inspiring and well done – you’ve done yourself some good! Thanks for sharing!
Jessica & James
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I think it’s always important to evaluate your life every so often and it’s great that you’ve made so much progress! 🙂
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Another honest and wonderfully written post 🙂 I had moments like these but going through my early 20s I have noticed they are subsiding and I am starting toa ppreciate myself more and more! XX
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Sounds like you’re really taking some great steps forward in your life. Best of luck for the future 🙂
Pandora xo
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Your posts are definitely insightful and passionate. I love how you tackle daily issues that people face like confidence. This was a post I could totally connect with! ❤
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I’m so glad!! Thank you for the lovely feedback X
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It’s the best way to be, I think we all need a little revamp sometimes!
Em x
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So happy you’re feeling more positive! I recently had the same kind of realisation that I am the only one that can make myself truly happy and that I’m going to do whatever it takes to be as happy as possible! Keep at it chicka ❤
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Yassss girl! Thank you so much for the lovely feedback X
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This is a lovely post and great that you feel so much more confident within yourself 💖
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I’m so glad that your confidence has grown and that you’re feeling better in your own skin. I think the realisation you’ve had is something that I need to realise too!
Sophie
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This is a great post!! I’m so happy your confidence has improved and you are becoming a happier person x
Laura
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I really enjoyed your post, so happy you’ve made the changes you needed in your life to feel more confident . Such a positive message.
Sharon x
rosieloveslife.blogspot.com
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YESSS! I love this post, I’m so happy for you that you’ve realised so much & are being the best person you can be. Well done you’re an inspiration to us all! Thanks a lot for sharing! X
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I saw your blog now through Heena and her Versatile blog nomination, and what for a joy is to read this post! I also like to meet positive people and I also want to forgive, and not being naive. Kindness is one of my guidelines in life. I always think it doesn’t cost anything to be kind! Your blog is wonderful!
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Thank you so much!! I’m so glad you enjoyed reading it! X
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I don’t think it sounds cliche at all to keep trying to work on being your best self, that’s what I’m really trying to do as well and it’s an ongoing journey. I’ve always been incredibly sensitive and lately I too have been growing a thicker skin and it actually feels pretty amazing, but I still really appreciate my sensitive side.
http://www.thesundaymode.com
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Wow Becca!
This blog post connected to me in so many ways! I feel the exact same and feeling confident in yourself is the first step into becoming who you are meant to be. I have also felt like making certain changes in my life and your blog today has inspired me to have the go ahead to do it!
Thank you Becca and awesome blog post!
– Q
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Thank YOU so much for this lovely feedback!! X
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