Christmas Eve: What I’m thankful for


I was in two minds as to whether I should do a Christmas Eve themed blog post, but seen as today is my publishing day and normally the day I upload new content, I figured, “Why not?”

I have actually been wanting to write a post similar to this for quite a while, and came to the conclusion that doing it around the time of Christmas would probably be more fitting.

I am thankful for a lot of things. I often look at my life and think, “wow. I really have a lot to be grateful for.” And I do. I have the most amazing friends, family, and people in general that surround me.

You have probably read a lot of posts similar to this, especially at this time of the year, so I am going to keep this post short and sweet for today. I am a strong believer that everything happens for a reason, and I feel that being blessed with the people around me is one of them.

I am thankful for anyone who has ever put up with me as odd as that may sound. After going from having not one single friend at one point, I am so thankful for all my friends around me today. Friendships are extremely important to me because of that, and it’s still surreal how many people are truly there for me. Thank you. Each and every single one of you.

Now for the completely cliche part (I know, it was coming). I am so incredibly thankful for every single person who takes time out of their day to read my rambling blog posts on here. Whether you’ve only visited my blog today, or a returning visitor, I cannot emphasise enough how thankful and humbled I am for each and every one of you. I get that I am definitely far from the biggest blog around, and that is totally okay, but you all deserve to be reminded how thankful I am for you taking time out of your day to read my content. It’s crazy.

And of course, I am extremely thankful for my family. I don’t normally get soppy when it comes to family, but sometimes I realise how lucky I am. I don’t, and will never, take anything they have done for me for granted. Whether that’s close family, or extended, I truly am thankful to be surrounded by such amazing people.

So there we have it. A pretty soppy post, but hey, it’s Christmas. (Will we ever stop using that excuse for everything at this time of year? Probably not).

I will probably be writing a New Year themed post at the end of the week in the run up to 2017 so I will leave those good ol’ New Years resolutions / reflection for then.

I hope you all have a wonderful Christmas with those you love the most. Sometimes it’s hard to forget what we have when we get wrapped up in the Christmas spirit and presents, and all that jazz. Stay safe, and healthy.

Love and happiness always,

xo, Becca

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An exploding, happy heart


I figured I would write this blog post now while I’m in this liberating mindset rather than wait until tomorrow even though it’s 1am and my eyes are shutting as I’m typing this.

However, I feel as though happiness is something that deserves to be expressed and shared. In a world full of such negative energy, sometimes it’s good to have that contrast and to talk about something other than all the negative and upsetting things this world has to offer at the moment.

Nevertheless, I wanted to write this post from a place of genuine happiness. From a place of someone who is finally coming into their own, and a place of reflection above anything else. If you have followed my blog for the past 3 months, you may have become aware of the fact that I’m an avid thinker. I spend my life thinking, overthinking, and analysing everything and anything.

Whilst thinking about everything tonight, I immediately became overwhelmed with a sudden feeling of pure happiness, something which is always my goal to achieve. If I’m going to be completely honest, I never would have thought 3 weeks ago that I would be sat here writing a post about happiness. If any of you read my blog posts from then, a few of them where quite muffled and not my usual style of writing. I was in a pretty bad state, and I think my blog posts at the time where a reflection of that unfortunately. I was in a bad place emotionally, and probably the worst I’ve been, ever. It became a task for me to leave the house, and it felt like the whole world was slowly suffocating me.

It was honestly difficult for me to pick myself back up and decide to keep working towards being genuinely happy again. When you’re in that draining mindset, it tends to keep sucking you in more and more. My moods tend to switch over periods of time, and that’s something which scares me about my anxiety. I can be strong for months, and then crumble in the space of a day.

But here I am. I’m still here, and I’m a lot calmer. After reflecting on everything, I decided to keep moving forward and to try to get myself back on track again.

You know that kind of happiness where you sit there and just smile, but also want to cry at the same time? That’s how overwhelmed I’m feeling at the moment. If any of you follow me on Twitter or Instagramyou may have noticed that a lot of my pictures involve me smiling more; and I think that says it all. After trying to pretend to everyone around me these past couple of weeks that I’m totally fine, I have come back with genuine smiles and a genuine sense of me again.

It’s never too late to pick yourself up from a fall. It’s never too late to put yourself back on track and continue to get to where you want to go in life. I view these past couple of weeks as a ‘bump in the road’ sort of thing- something I managed to overcome, and something I’m sure I can, and will, overcome again next time.

Nothing seems to phase me at the moment. You could honestly say what you want about me, and I won’t sit there and worry about it for a good week and make myself ill. I think that just proves how much my mind has revamped itself in the past week, and I’m incredibly happy and relieved to be in a good, positive, healthy place again.

So here I am. My blog has, and always will be, a personal reflection of my life, my state of mind and everything in between. I plan to share everything here, because it’s my own personal space in the corner of the internet. Although this post was pretty personal, I feel so much better for getting it out there- even if 2 people read this post. Because the fact of the matter is that happiness deserves to be celebrated, and progress deserves to be recognised. This post won’t just act as a reminder for myself when I’m at a low point again, but also to anyone else who is in a similar frame of mind like how I was 2-3 weeks ago.

Treat this as a ‘bump in the road’ and never waver from the long term goal of happiness. Although it may not be achievable all the time, it certainly is achievable and not impossible.

Love and happiness always,

xo, Becca

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My life philosophy

Who I am. What I’m about. Who I’m becoming. If you’ve been following my blog for the past 3 months, you may have heard me refer to my life philosophy. A philosophy that consists on me being a good, nice, genuine person and never wavering from that goal.

My life philosophy isn’t achievable automatically though. I have to make mistakes, do wrong, and work on those mistakes to help make myself a better person. I’ve done things over the past 4 months especially I wish I’d done it differently. But I’m not perfect, but who I am, and who I’m becoming is still the same.

I am also a big believer in forgiveness and being humble. It’s certainly not as easy said as done when someone hurts you immensely, or when someone tries to argue with you and I feel the need to be passive. I would rather live my life being passive and humble to the world around me, rather than anything else. I’m not a big believer in “drama,” and never have been. I understand some people enjoy drama and gossip, but it’s just not me. I would rather keep my distance and exist in my own happy lil bubble- as I call it anyway.

I feel like I’m a hard person to understand. I’m complicated. Sometimes me being different can be a good thing, and other times it can scare me. “What if people think I’m fake?” I’m constantly surrounded by “what if’s” when it comes to my life, and with the fear of people not understanding my life philosophy.

But when you simplify it, all I want to be and become is a good, nice, genuine person who puts others first. As idealistic as it may sound, that’s just who I am. That’s my personality and how I’m programmed and that’s who I’m proud of. As much as people may hate me for it, this is me. Everything you’re reading regarding my life philosophy is me. I’m Becca and I just so happen to thrive off caring for others immensely and from always trying to do the right thing for the benefit of those I love most around me.

My life philosophy helps keep me on track and is extremely important to me. When it comes to other people, their perceptions and how they view me is a fundamental part of shaping who I am. Although I shouldn’t be worried about how people see me, my life philosophy keeps me focused on who I am. I understand that not everyone will understand me, and I’m pretty sure there are people out there who hate my guts. But I know who I am, and that has especially got me through the past couple of weeks. After hearing about someone’s false perception of who I am I suddenly realised, “You know what? I know who I am and that’s all that maters.”

I don’t normally get mad at myself for trying to be good to people. I know and understand that some people are reluctant to forgive, and be kind to others even if they’re not kind back. However, that’s their fault. You can’t put your own genuine personality on the line for someone else who doesn’t appreciate you. Stay true to who you are and everything you’re about, someone (somewhere) accepts and loves that about you.

That’s my life philosophy. The idea that I will always strive to have the best intentions of others at heart, to forgive and not hold grudges, to see both sides of the argument, and be nice and kind to others always. That doesn’t make me naive because I have recently cut out people in my life who are and were toxic to me. But I don’t hate them, and I never could. I do forgive them, but I also know what’s best for me. Live life to the fullest, as much as we may say it- we do truly only live once. “Make this life the best it can be.” Stay humble, always.

Love and happiness always,

xo, Becca

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Being thankful


The good in being thankful for everything. It may seem like such a cliche and may be one of the most overused words thrown around, but I think we underestimate how much good it is to be thankful for everything.

Personally, I never used to look at things and take a step back and realise how grateful I had for everything in my life. I don’t know if that was due to the ignorance which went with my age, but over the past year or two especially, I have learnt to be thankful for even the smallest things in the world. Whether it’s being thankful for things in my own life, such as an amazing support system of family and friends, or even being thankful for the sky and nature outside; I’ve learnt that taking notice of the small things in life helps calm your mind and fill your heart with such joy and gratitude.

This blog post may be full of complete cliches, and people who probably think I am a seventeen year old girl who is ‘odd’ for going off on a tangent about how thankful I am for even the sky, but if we think about it, it really is the small things in life. Sometimes it’s good for us all as humans to take a step back, look at the bigger picture of everything and realise that life isn’t as bad as we think it is. It’s so easy to get wrapped up in the negative sides of life without paying attention to the positives, but if we all were more thankful for everything that this amazing world gives us, we may find that our mind ends up loving us more for it.

I have learnt especially to be thankful for the people that surrounds me in my life. Sure, people have come and go, but I feel like being grateful for the people in my life helps make me even happier in myself. I have begun to realise that I have such amazing people all around me who deserve to be reminded. Occasionally, I feel the need to pick up my phone, go through my contacts and text my best friends to remind them how thankful I am for even them existing. Seen as at one point in my life I had no friends whatsoever and was totally alone, it’s such a foreign concept to me that I am surrounded by so many amazing friends who genuinely care about me as much as I care about them. I guess that’s why I love making new friends so much. There are so many amazing people in this world who you end up being so thankful for- and at one time, they were total strangers to you. If you take anything away from this blog post, I would want it to be that you hug the people who mean the most to you in this world, and remind them that they’re just that. Not enough people realise what they have- especially until it’s gone.

It’s such a weird concept that everything you have could be gone tomorrow. At the end of the day, we never know what tomorrow might bring, or even next week for that matter. I believe that’s why it is extra important that we realise what we have in the present time. The people who left your life, should not be dwelled on. Sure, you can look at the happy memories, or maybe even rekindle lost relationships. But live for now, look at what you have now, and realise that life can bless is with some of the most inspirational people that we simply couldn’t imagine our life without. Wether that’s friends, family or even your partner; life really is amazing.

I know and understand that a lot of people who read my blog may be going through a hard time at the moment. Whether that’s battling your own mind, going through a relationship break up, or loosing someone you love. If anything, I hope this post helps calm your mind and give you a different perspective of this world. Take it from myself, looking at what you have around you and being so utterly thankful for it that it makes you cry with such gratitude is one of the best and liberating feelings. I have realised that it is so important for my mind to look at the now, and have such love and compassion for the people and things around me that mean the most to me. After all, life really can bless you with some of the most amazing people you would never have imagined would ever enter your life.

Feel free to drop a comment below and let me know what or who you’re thankful for! Take a step back today and remind the people you love the most that you really are thankful for them, or take pictures of the things that make you the happiest such as nature, the sky or the moon. It really will help free and calm your hectic mind.

Need advice on anything? Whether it’s needing some motivation, relationship advice, or just advice in general; feel free to inbox me on Tumblr! I am so excited to start dedicating one day a week on my blog to start responding to your questions on needing advice- and spread a bit of love and positivity! (Please note: You will remain completely anonymous).

Love and happiness always,

xo, Becca

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