You don’t have an endless amount of time

As dark and depressing as this may sound, I often sit there and reflect on the concept of death. About how I can make my life the best life it can be before I die. I am more than aware that life is not endless and I don’t have forever to live, so I am a strong believer in making the most of it while I’m here and while I can. I also mentioned this in my blog post on When I die.

I plan to make the most out of life, and that includes making the most of the people I love and care about the most around me. Just like you don’t live forever, neither do the people around you. A few years ago, I lost my best friend and the person I was closest to above everyone else in this world (my grandma). That’s when this concept really started to hit me and I became intrigued with the idea of making the most of people around you while they’re still here.

If you’re mad at someone for some small issue, resolve it. Forgive, and move on. In my experience, life is too short to make enemies and continue to feud with someone over something which simply won’t matter when you die. If you’re going through a hard and stressful time in your life at the moment, it’s okay. Look forward. You have so many more years left to offer this world, and so many more years to make some amazing memories which will stay with you and others.

The fact of the matter is that some things simply don’t matter. In fact, one of my most favourite pieces from Milk and Honey explores this idea really well. Your job, Where you’re sitting. At the end of the day, none of that matters. Look and seek the most important things; love, human connection, forgiveness. Trust me when I say this, you will be such a happier person for it.

A lot of people tend to question me on why I forgive, or why I try to make effort with people when they may hate me. But at the end of the day, life is too short to not take those opportunities. That person who I’m fretting over hating me could actually be an okay person. That person who requires forgiveness may have been going through a rough time to cause their actions. Forgiving and forgetting are two separate ideas; and forgiveness isn’t naive.

I don’t have a life philosophy for the fun of it. I don’t sit here and blog about positivity because I want to be some inspirational speaker that thinks we live in a world with unicorns and rainbows (although that would be pretty cool). If that’s how you perceive my blog, then that couldn’t be further from the truth. I blog about these kind of things because life is too short to not strive for them. Because life is too short to not seize opportunities, rekindle lost loves if you really want to, or to not live your life exactly how you want. You are in control of your life, no one else.

People aren’t around forever. If you want to try and get someone, go for it. If you want to wear clothes that are unique but make you feel good, go for it. If you want to tattoo your whole body, go for it. Yeah, people may judge. But at the end of the day, what do you want from life?

One of my biggest fears is living life in regret. In wishing that I applied for a ‘dream job’ when I got the chance. In not being with who I’m meant to be with because I was too stubborn to be honest when it comes to my feelings. In letting myself down, and those around me. In being a failure to myself and I certainly don’t plan on that.

My main message that I hope comes from this rambling piece of 1am writing is that life doesn’t last forever. Some things are too insignificant in this world to be fretting over and sometimes our stubborn personalities can take over us sometimes, and that’s okay (trust me, I’m so incredibly stubborn). But it’s never too late to forgive. It’s never too late to rekindle the relationship of the person you love the most and you feel you’re meant to be with. It’s never too late to change your outlook and mindset on life, and it’s never too late to start living and feel alive.

Love and happiness always,

xo, Becca









When I die…

From the title, you may be expecting this to be a ‘dark’ and ‘depressing’ post. However, this is going to be the total opposite (I hope!)

I always like to think about how I live my life- and with that comes the legacy I leave behind. Will anyone turn up to my funeral? Will people continue to talk bad about me? Will my friends still be my friends?

I guess all these shouldn’t matter; I mean, I’ll be dead… why am I so bothered about the ‘legacy’ I leave behind when I die? But I’m an over thinker. In the words of Aleissa Cara, “I think I think too much.” I guess me worrying about what will happen to me when I die is one of those ‘thinking too much’ moments.

At the end of the day, all I want to do is love the best life than I can. I seem to say this in so many of my blog posts; but if I am nothing but kind, compassionate, happy and healthy then I have successfully lived a good life.

If anything, I want my legacy to be change. I sometimes even worry about this concept because it’s something that’s so hard to achieve. So many people in this world want to make a change, but don’t quite get there. I don’t want to have ‘nearly’ achieved change, I want to do it and me enough influence in this world to achieve just that.

Maybe it’s unrealistic, but if I impact positively on even just one person’s life then I’m pretty happy. All I am to do is be there for people, and I really do thrive off that. I don’t find it exhausting, rather a way for me to help others and just be there.

I hope that I live a long and happy life whilst helping others along the way. I hope that the people who left my life make their way back to me in the end. I hope that I die knowing that I’m proud of all my life accomplishments. I hope I die having experienced real love and having the most amazing friends and family still surround me. I hope I die happy that in the end, everything in my life worked out just how it was meant to.

Love and happiness always,

xo, Becca


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