All about the corset trend


I think it’s safe to say that it’s been a good 5 years (exaggeration, but you get my vibe) since I last did my first, and only, fashion post. You can check it out here if you would like. However, I have been obsessing over a current fashion trend at the moment, and I just had to blog about it.

I have been lusting badly over corsets, and even more over how to style them. I recently went into New Look and found the p-e-r-f-e-c-t corset which is affordable, good quality, and a good size. What more can a girl want?

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For this look, I put my newly purchased corset over a simple jumper dress from Primark which only cost me £8. It’s extremely comfortable and a great addition to my spring wardrobe. The corset gives the look an extra ‘edge’ rather than just a plain jumper with tights- as well as making me feel extremely confident.


To complete the look, I added an (extremely) oversized denim jacket to give a grunge / hip sort of style. As it was a breezy day, this was perfect as I wasn’t too hot, or too cold. The thing with this time of year is that you can throw a denim jacket on over any outfit and you’re good to go.

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Have any of you tried out styling a ‘corset’ yet, and if so, what did you pair it with? I would love to hear your thoughts and ideas!

Corset: Isn’t available anymore on the New Look website, but may still be available in some stores.

Jumper: Primark

Denim jacket: Charity shop

Love and happiness always,

xo, Becca

My body, my choice


So today I was casually looking to see if my outfit was okay in a mirror, and it got me thinking. Of course, I think in the most random of situations and circumstances, but bare with me on this one.

I know this is talked about a lot, and so we should do. Our bodies are our own and no one else’s. That means we can’t let people tell us what we “can” and “can’t” do with it (within legal boundaries of course). But even I still find myself doing things in order to please others.

What I do with my body is none of your business. Period. Let people breathe, and let people live. No one should be able to control what someone else does with their body, and no one should be able to judge.

Because the thing is, whatever I wear, however I decide to express my body and my body image, is due to my own confidence. Yes, confidence people. Low cut dresses. Jeans without a long top above it. They’re all things I have slowly learnt to overcome and I finally feel liberated, confident and happy in my body. Okay? Okay.

I’m growing up, and I’m sensible in expressing who I am with my body. I feel like body image is something everyone struggles with, and the power to overcome that is incredible.

I don’t know. Another rambled sort of post, full of complete expression of words, and passion for letting women, men, transgender people, anyone, feel confident enough to belong to their own body.

Love and happiness always,

xo, Becca

 

‘A strong, independent woman.’


Okay so it’s nearly 12am and it’s been a while since I have plucked up a sudden ‘urge’ to write a blog post over something that makes my mind bounce and my heart flutter. When I get a sudden rush of writing inspiration, I normally get all weird inside and it’s like my thoughts run at 100 miles per hour so bare with me on this one.

Ladies, here’s a thought for you. A thought that people seem to mention all the time, but which has actually stuck with me tonight. Do not, EVER, let a man define your worth. Never. If a man is unable to cherish and appreciate you for who you are, then that’s his loss. Obviously, this applies to anyone in life, just like a man never letting a woman define his worth, but I’m talking about this in relation to something that’s been whirling round in my life.

I could’ve easily have let someone define my worth a long time ago. In fact, I touched on this in my ‘A conclusion’ post. But I am so incredibly glad that I didn’t make that mistake. And I am so incredibly glad that I am strong enough in myself to turn round and say, “You know what? That wasn’t what I needed.”

Because a person’s actions against you, does not define you. Have confidence in your own self to know what you deserve, and it should be nothing but the best.

You don’t find your worth in a man. You find your worth within yourself and then find a man who’s worthy of you. Remember that.

I feel like I’m going on a ‘women independence’ tangent right now, but I feel like this has to be reflected upon. I am so fortunate to have the mindset of independence and empowerment. To be strong enough to not let a man rule me, my life or my emotions. To know that being single can still be one of the best things. Because I don’t need anyone, and I never have. Wanting, and needing are two totally different things.

So, to whoever took me for granted, good effort. Thank you for making me feel more empowered, confident, independent and strong than I have ever felt in my life. Thank you for filling me with the courage to do better, and be better. And thank you for making me my own worth- which is certainly not shaped by your actions.

Stay fearless.

Love and happiness always,

xo, Becca

Morphe 35O giveaway!


It’s that time again, and this time it’s going to be one of my biggest and most exciting giveaways yet. I have been totally blown away with all the nice comments and just everything to do with my blog / YouTube over the past few months, that I really wanted to give something back that I know you’ll love (and which happens to be my favourite eyeshadow palette, like ever).

I’m going to be giving away the Morphe 35O palette to one of you lovely people and here’s how to enter!

Enter via this form below:

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All entries must be done through Rafflecopter above. This will make it easier for me to congregate all the entries and to pick the winners randomly (all terms and conditions are listed on the giveaway form).

All entrants must subscribe to my YouTube channel here, follow me on Twitter (+ turn on my tweet notifications), and be following me on Instagram. The form will redirect you to all those sites if you aren’t already following me / subscribed etc.

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Giveaway ends 20th February 2017 at 00:00am GMT. **Open residents of the UK only.** Winner will have 48 hours to respond to the giveaway- failure to respond will result in another winner. Winners are chosen completely at random. All entrants must follow all the rules described- not doing this may result in disqualification. The product offered for the giveaway is free of charge, no purchase necessary. My opinions are my own and were not influenced by any form of compensation. Facebook, Twitter and Google+ are in no way associated with this giveaway. By providing your information in this form, you are providing your information to me and me alone. I do not share or sell information and will use any information only for the purpose of contacting the winner. All entrants under 18 years of age must ask for parent / guardians permission.

Once again, thank you so much for always being so lovely and supportive. You’re all cool n rad n amazing and yeah u get me. (wow how informal did that sound, but seriously though). xx

Good luck!

Love and happiness always,

xo, Becca

2016: A lookback


So it’s nearly 2017 and I physically don’t know where this year has gone. I remember it being back in January and being so optimistic over what this year would hold for me. I finished education, I sat my last exams, and I honestly never thought I would have conquered everything that I have this year. Nevertheless, I wanted to write a small post reflecting on this year- including the ups, downs, and everything in between.

I think this is one of those years that I’ll always look back on in the future and think, “wow. I made it.” I’m not talking about materialistic things, rather that I have achieved some of my own personal goals and wow… I am overwhelmed at everything that I has come from this year.

I have had my fair share of ‘lows’ this year. If you have been following my blog since July, you will probably be aware of some of the events that have occurred- my mental health being one of them. It’s been a scary sort of year, but one that has definitely made me stronger as a person.

For instance, I can’t believe that I can actually sit here and say that I am currently confident in who I am. I have always been a self conscious person. From worrying about my body size, how I look, and simply who I am as a person. I have grown to accept that who I am is simply me. 100% genuine me. I’m not perfect, and I’m not the prettiest dime in the box; but beauty is subjective and I should take confidence in the idea that I may not be everyone’s cup of tea, but I am someone’s. Bottom line: confidence is fridggen’ empowering when you finally get there.

I have also made some of the most amazing friends over the past year. I discussed this topic in a blog post not so long ago, but friendship is such a fundamental part of my life. Since going from having not one single friend a few years ago, to a group of 20 odd is ridiculously crazy and honestly… I still wonder how I deserved such an amazing bunch of supportive, and simply amazing friends. To everyone who has gone above and beyond for me this year, thank you. And thank you for sticking around (even at my dorkiest and dumbest moments. No seriously).

And of course, this year, this little important ‘journal’ of my life just so happened to appear on the internet for the whole world to see. Yes, I’m talking about my blog. When I first started blogging, I honestly thought one person would read my blog and no one would care about what I ramble about. My blog was literally a spontaneous idea at 10pm at night when I was feeling so low, and I never in a million years expected to continue blogging for a month- never mind nearly six. It’s safe to say though that I find comfort in what I write here, and sharing it so anyone and everyone can relate. It’s probably one of the best things to happen to me this year in my own mental progress- and hey, who knows what next year will hold for me and my blog.

For now, I am looking back on 2016 with the most humble attitude. What a learning curve this year has been. I mean, I actually finished A Levels this year, got a job, went back to London and actually took care of myself for once. What a year this has been- and despite everything, it’s also been pretty overwhelming in a good way. Not everything negative that goes on in your life has to stay as a negative, some things can change your life and mindset for the positive.

From me to you, have a happy / safe / healthy 2017. It’s never too late to make this one of the best years yet- I have realised that life doesn’t go on forever. Live for yourself, but stay kind to others. Have fun. And actually live for once. You’ll be amazed at what a difference that mindset can make.

Love and happiness always,

xo, Becca

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Why ‘girl power’ is so important


Girl power. We seem to talk about this idea a lot. I actually bought a top which says ‘power to the girls’ and it got me thinking a lot about girl power in general.

The phrase “girl power” is used as a term of empowerment, independence, and self-sureness. Girl power expressed a cultural phenomenon of the 1990s and early 2000s. It is also linked to third-wave feminism. The term was made popular by the Spice Girls in the mid-to-late 1990s.

When I think about ‘girl power,’ the idea of empowerment and confidence seems to spring to mind. Girl power is all about unity of women in order to bring about a shared sense of empowerment. It is not a term created to imply that women want to be ‘more powerful’ than men, or vice versa.

I am happy promoting girl power because it is fundamentally important. We live in a world full of such judgement, weather that’s based on our appearance, personality, sexuality, beliefs or anything in between. Girl Power is about bringing one another up, rather than tearing each other down.

 

It deeply upsets me when I see girls speak low of another female. It’s almost as if girls compete against each other in order to bring their own self esteem up. And it’s not healthy. Girl Power is about improving the confidence of women- instead of commenting negatively on another woman’s appearance, why not compliment her for something she deserves to be complimented on instead?

Here’s to Girl Power. Here’s to empowerment. Here’s to confidence, and here’s to equality for all.

Love and happiness always,

xo, Becca

UK Blog Awards- VOTING NOW OPEN!

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HEY GUYS! Today is a pretty random and spontaneous kind of post.

I have been nominated for a UK Blog Award which is so surreal and amazing at the same time. i would like to thank everyone from the bottom of my heart who took the time to nominate me, and who has ever supported my blog and this crazy journey of writing. It is extremely humbling, so thank you.

This means that I have made it to the next stage of the voting process, also known as the ‘public vote.’

You can vote for my blog by simply clicking this link. All you need to fill in is your name, e-mail, and click the category I’m nominated in (lifestyle)- and hit submit!

Also, a HUGE thank you to anyone who has voted for me so far. I am extremely grateful, and even though awards do not determine what my blog is about, I am still very thankful that people take to me, my writing, and my hard work.

Voting closes 19th December.

Love and happiness always,

xo, Becca

500 YouTube subscribers Autumn giveaway

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I RECENTLY HIT 500 SUBSCRIBERS ON MY YOUTUBE CHANNEL!!

As a massive thank you, I am giving away something pretty amazing and exciting.

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Recently, I have been raving about the new Rimmel “Only 1” lipsticks which have only just been newly released. You can now get your hands on your very own and a pair of cat ears from New Look as well as a gorgeous blue scarf from Primark- perfect for Autumn!

I have split the entries into different social media platforms. If you want an increased chance of winning, all you have to do is enter via more than one social media platform.

To enter via Twitter:

Retweet: https://twitter.com/beccaxjayne/status/793785059740360704

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To enter via Instagram:

Tag a friend in this post: https://www.instagram.com/p/BMUCtH4AIiy/?taken-by=itsbeccajayne

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To enter via my blog:

Add me on Snapchat (itssbeccajayne) (Snap code)

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This is a worldwide giveaway. Winners will be announced 30/11.

Good luck! 

Love and happiness always,

xo, Becca

Spotlight outfit of the week: Week 1

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In case you hadn’t noticed from the title, this blog post is my favourite outfit from this past week.

It’s now Autumn and that really excites me as that’s a total excuse to just wear scarves and an that extra item of clothing to my outfit if it’s a bit basic on it’s own. This past week, I definitely made the most of the colder weather (here’s too many more cold and gloomy days) and here is my favourite outfit of the week!

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Shoes: Zara (£29.99)

Jeans: Topshop (Bought from the charity shop, so I don’t have a link to the exact pair online)

Top: New Look (I don’t have a link to this exact one, but the one linked is similar and priced cheaper at £9.99)

Scarf: New Look (I couldn’t find a link to that online either, but it’s in store for £7.49)

Bag: Primark (£5)

I hope you enjoyed my first ‘fashion themed’ post! What kind of Autumn looks are you loving at the moment? Let me know in the comment box below!

Love and happiness always,

xo, Becca

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The reality behind panic attacks


All in all, today has been quite an up and down day for me. Even though my mind is now the happiest, calmest and most positive it’s ever been, my anxiety still manages to linger- both social and general anxiety.

I go through different spells when it comes to my anxiety. If it’s not one thing, it’s another. Sometimes my ‘every day’ anxiety will be worse, and sometimes my social anxiety will be worse. And today? My social anxiety has really hit me hard.

Like many people, I normally get panic attacks when I feel the most anxious or on edge. I am not one to let my anxiety to stop me doing things, so I was perfectly happy going shopping on my own today and just having a browse. However, whilst in one particular shop, I suddenly started feeling really sick and had trouble breathing.

Even though panic attacks can sometimes be caused by a ‘trigger thought,’ they can come without warning. Sometimes you don’t feel uncomfortable or on edge until the panic attack actually happens.

As I also created this blog to help understand mental illnesses more and to decrease the stigma, I have put together a step by step guide to help someone having a panic attack. Whether you’re a sufferer of panic attacks yourself, or you’re with someone who’s having one, here is a short guide of the best things you can do to help someone in that anxious position:

1. Stay with the person and stay calm: If someone is having a panic attack, the best thing you can do is to also stay calm. Remember, this person isn’t dying even though it may be a scary experience. Make sure you comfort them and just stay with them until their panic attack passes.

2. Move the person to a private place: Take this from me, if a person is having a panic attack, the last thing they need is to be in a public place. Take them somewhere quiet and calm to help them feel more comfortable. If they are having a panic attack due to social anxiety, then they probably don’t want to be around a crowd of people.

3. Don’t be too pushy: If a person you love and care about, you naturally will be concerned. However, try not to be too pushy and talk to them too much. I find that when I have a panic attack, I like to have someone there, but I also like to have my own space. Offer supportive words such as, “I’m proud of you,” “You’re okay,” “Concentrate on your breathing.” Trust me when I say that just being there is enough.

4. Don’t be judgmental: I understand it’s hard to help someone through a panic attack if you’re not even 100% sure as to what’s going on. Regardless though, don’t be judgmental and claim things such as, “You’re being stupid and irrational.” Remember: whatever caused the panic attack was probably rational to whoever experiences it. Don’t jump to conclusions and make the person feel a thousand times worse than they already do.

5. Don’t pressure yourself: I have been in positions where people have been with me when I’ve had a panic attack, and they didn’t know what to do which is totally fine. It’s a natural human reaction to be shocked and not know how to deal with something that is new to you. Just do what you think is best- and be as supportive as possible. I never expect for anyone to know what to do when I’m having a panic attack, but I find that someone just being there and comforting me is enough as it helps to calm me naturally. Don’t feel like you’re going to say the wrong thing, if you care, then you’ll never say the wrong thing.

Panic attacks are genuinely one of the worst things going, especially when there is a lack of knowledge about them and a lot of people jump to conclusions and assume that you’re ‘overreacting’ or ‘in a bad mood.’ With that being said, if you’re ever experiencing a panic attack, I’ve also included a step by step guide with what you can do (especially if you’re on your own):

1. Ring / text friends: I find that when I’m experiencing a panic attack, I feel so consumed by feelings of loneliness and just feeling hopeless. It’s important that you remember that you’re not alone. Ask a friend to try to distract you, maybe ask them to talk to you about why peacocks are such underrated animals… trust me, I’ve had this conversation in the middle of a panic attack and it seemed to work.

2. Put in your earphones and listen to some music: Panic attacks seem to be at it’s worst when I’m in a public place and around a bunch of strangers who I feel are watching me or judging my every mood. In order to distract your mind from thinking this, put on some music. Concentrate on every little detail, the beat, the production, the lyrics. Distracting yourself is the best thing you can do.

3. Breathe: This one may be the most obvious point, but breathing is so incredibly important when it comes to having panic attacks. It helps concentrate your mind on each breath you take, and helps bring you back to earth. There are so many breathing techniques out there, but my counselor told me to count each breath on my arm in accordance to my fingers, or hold onto my stomach and breathe in and out 10 seconds at a time. If you’re walking around in a public place and experiencing a panic attack, sit down and take yourself away from everything for a moment to allow yourself to breathe.

4. Only resume what you’re doing when you’re ready: You have all the time in the world, don’t feel like you need to resume life without being 100% ready to do so. Make sure you’re breathing properly, and that your heart has stopped racing. Consider if going out in public is the best thing to do yet, and look after yourself. Don’t force yourself to go back into the situation that made you feel uncomfortable without being ready, you’ll just go back to square one again.

I have also found with panic attacks that are caused by social anxiety, it is just better to let them happen. Okay, better may not be the best word, but definitely easier. Panic attacks are like an uncontrollable fire, and sometimes you need to just let the fire burn because, believe it or not, a panic attack can help you let go of all your uncontrollable stress and emotions.

And the reality behind panic attacks? They happen. They’re a natural human ‘flight or fight’ response. They can occur to some, and not to others. I tend to find that with my social anxiety, I can go months without hardly having panic attacks, and then have a spell of even having 3 per day.

When I experience a panic attack, I tend to want to be alone. I try to separate myself from the world around me, and just take some time to myself. Whether that’s sitting in my room, or sitting on a bench in public, taking time away from hectic life seems to work for me.

Another key sign that I’m having a panic attack is suddenly feeling so drained and sick. Even though this occurs more in a general anxiety attack than a social anxiety panic attack (oh yes, I find there’s a difference in the levels of panic!), I sometimes find that retreating to the nearest toilet also helps. I mean, you know you’re definitely on your own there and no one will walk in on you (hopefully!)

The scariest thing about panic attacks is that I also become scared about having them. What do I do if I have an anxiety attack in public? What do I do if I have an anxiety attack in work? In fact, I have panic attacks in work all the time which makes it a thousand times harder to serve teas and coffees to customers when you’re scared of… well… people in that moment in time. Seriously anxiety, can’t you leave me alone to work in a comfortable environment?

Above everything else, remember to be kind to yourself. The world may seem like it’s closing in on you, but it’s not. You’re not dying. And you know what, you are okay. It will pass in time. I find that I get more panic attacks when I’m around people who I’m uncomfortable with- and have since cut those people from my life. Put yourself first, and never think that having a panic attack is your fault.

Do you suffer from panic attacks and what works best for you when it comes to calming your mind? Feel free to leave your responses in the comment box below!

Need advice on anything? Whether it’s needing some motivation, relationship advice, or just advice in general; feel free to inbox me on Tumblr! I am so excited to start dedicating one day a week on my blog to start responding to your questions on needing advice- and spread a bit of love and positivity! (Please note: You will remain completely anonymous).

Love and happiness always,

xo, Becca

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