‘A strong, independent woman.’

Okay so it’s nearly 12am and it’s been a while since I have plucked up a sudden ‘urge’ to write a blog post over something that makes my mind bounce and my heart flutter. When I get a sudden rush of writing inspiration, I normally get all weird inside and it’s like my thoughts run at 100 miles per hour so bare with me on this one.

Ladies, here’s a thought for you. A thought that people seem to mention all the time, but which has actually stuck with me tonight. Do not, EVER, let a man define your worth. Never. If a man is unable to cherish and appreciate you for who you are, then that’s his loss. Obviously, this applies to anyone in life, just like a man never letting a woman define his worth, but I’m talking about this in relation to something that’s been whirling round in my life.

I could’ve easily have let someone define my worth a long time ago. In fact, I touched on this in my ‘A conclusion’ post. But I am so incredibly glad that I didn’t make that mistake. And I am so incredibly glad that I am strong enough in myself to turn round and say, “You know what? That wasn’t what I needed.”

Because a person’s actions against you, does not define you. Have confidence in your own self to know what you deserve, and it should be nothing but the best.

You don’t find your worth in a man. You find your worth within yourself and then find a man who’s worthy of you. Remember that.

I feel like I’m going on a ‘women independence’ tangent right now, but I feel like this has to be reflected upon. I am so fortunate to have the mindset of independence and empowerment. To be strong enough to not let a man rule me, my life or my emotions. To know that being single can still be one of the best things. Because I don’t need anyone, and I never have. Wanting, and needing are two totally different things.

So, to whoever took me for granted, good effort. Thank you for making me feel more empowered, confident, independent and strong than I have ever felt in my life. Thank you for filling me with the courage to do better, and be better. And thank you for making me my own worth- which is certainly not shaped by your actions.

Stay fearless.

Love and happiness always,

xo, Becca


31 thoughts on “‘A strong, independent woman.’

  1. Yes Becca! I’ve been surrounded by such strong minded women that I have always known that I don’t need a man to feel beautiful and loved. I know what I deserve and will not settle for someone who isn’t willing to give me the respect I deserve.

    Thanks for this post love


  2. Love this! More women need to realise that they can be strong and successful and beautiful without having a man in their like and that is OK. Thank you for this post!

    Ioanna | beautyloverstories.com


  3. Great post! You’re absolutely right! Never let anybody defines you! Women need to realized that they are strong and capable and that they can accomplish great things without a man! xx Corinne from Corinne & Kirsty


  4. SO MUCH YES to this post! A person’s worth comes from within, not from others. And in times like these, it’s even more important for people to stand up in favor of independent women who don’t let patriarchal BS push them around!



  5. You said it girl! I think this can apply to everyone – even friends – and it’s so important to be able to stand on your own two feet, and to be content with your own company every once in a while.


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