A competitive life

I have been thinking a lot about outward appearances and just appearances in general a lot lately. I don’t know if I’m the only one who does this, but do you ever look around you and think, “I wish I looked like that?” Obviously these aren’t healthy thoughts, but I often get drawn into thinking them every now and again.

It feels like society in general is a competition over appearances. You know, having to look a certain way in order to make the cut to be a model, or to look like the perfect ‘star.’ It really is pressure, and as much as people seem to address this issue, I want to address it in my own way.

The fact is, in some shape or form, society has been like this for years. I think the trick is learning to feel comfortable in accepting your own appearance however. As much as I am becoming confident in how I look, I do still often compare myself to even my own best friends. It’s like I don’t feel like I ‘fit in’ because I don’t look a certain way. Or I don’t style my clothes like they do. Or because I wear glasses, and genuinely can’t wear contact lenses because there’s not one suitably fitted to cater for my eyes (as far as I know of anyway).

But when you think about it, beauty really does come in many forms, shapes and sizes. Maybe the only person we should compete with is ourselves and setting our own goals to strive for. You see, I hate getting bogged down about my appearance, just like a lot of other people probably do. It’s definitely a daily struggle, one in which I wish so many people didn’t have to deal with.

In a lot of these posts, I normally end it with a plea to go out and compliment at least one person when, and if, possible. Even if it’s just, “I like your hair,” or, “That dress is cute! Where’s it from?” Beauty shouldn’t be a competition, but a joint effort of empowerment. Of letting down our own pride, and giving someone else a reason to feel good. A little can go a long way.

Flaunt that perfect lil ass of yours because you deserve it.

Love and happiness always,

xo, Becca







17 thoughts on “A competitive life

  1. I struggle with this too and this is such an important topic because some hurt themselves to try to achieve what they believe is beautiful. Comparison really is the thief of joy.


  2. Spot on. Beauty does take all kinds of shapes and sizes and colors and honestly everything! It’s easy to get caught up in what is suddenly the latest trend that everyone thinks they need to partake in. This way for eyebrows, this hair color, this body shape, but that shouldn’t be the main concern. Just be you because honestly there are things you can’t change and that shouldn’t be changed. Be you. And yes giving out compliments is always fun. (:

    Single Vegas Girl


  3. I love this – I always try to compliment people whenever I can, you never know it could be the only nice thing that happens to them that day! Love this post.


  4. I love this post, great read. I’m like this too, I do compare myself to others way too much. I need to just start thinking ‘I am me, I’m fine just the way I am’. Taking its time but I’ll think I’ll get there.

    Belle | BelleBrick.blogspot.co.uk


  5. Great post.
    I am older and it’s funny, I don’t compare myself to others, certainly not looks wise, The older I get, the less I give a toss. I’m happy and that’s what counts.


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