Putting yourself first

So this is going to be another one of those blog posts that are completely jumbled and is just all my emotions blurted into one rambling piece of writing while my eyes are hurting from being so tired and drained. But nevertheless, here it goes.

I recently vowed to myself that I would not settle for anything less than I deserve. I probably spend the majority of 2016 being messed about by people who simply didn’t deserve my time, effort, or even myself. I don’t care if it’s a boy, friend, cat or goldfish- I won’t expose myself to the amount of hurt that I have endured previously.

I think it’s so liberating when you finally know you’re own worth. It’s like the whole feeling of, “wow. You know what? I do deserve better.” As someone who used to beat herself up over people constantly hating her, it is the most amazing feeling knowing that I won’t settle for something I’m simply not happy with.

I am dedicating myself to me, and to the people around me whom I love and cherish the most. It’s not in a selfish way, but sometimes, that’s the most important. I say it all the time (I know!), but you are your own longest commitment. Look after yourself and your own feelings. Don’t spend your life around people who make you feel less than you should.

I guess a lot of these thoughts and feelings lead onto the subject of boys, and relationship in general. Okay we gathered, I suck at all that kind of stuff, but I’m not going to spend my time on a boy, or anyone for that matter, who won’t make the effort to come and see me. Who won’t give back as much effort as I am putting in. I have learnt the hard way that it’s just not worth it. I would rather be single than be with someone who makes me feel any less than how I should feel.

I look back at what I’ve just wrote with utter astonishment, in a good sort of way. This time last year, I would have never felt as confident in myself and what I’m worth as I do now. I am a human, and I deserve to be loved and cherished like one just as I give back. Don’t spend your time giving 100% to someone when you’re getting 50% back. Yes, i know, I did say this would be a rambled post.

Confidence in yourself is empowering and liberating and utterly amazing. Don’t ever confuse it for being vain, rather knowing you’re own worth.

Love and happiness always,

xo, Becca








30 thoughts on “Putting yourself first

  1. It is not selfish at all to what’s right for your own good. I know the feeling of finally putting yourself first, and it is in fact so very relieving. So go you!! And best wishes for the new year. x

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  2. After reading your post, I want to yell out “Yeah! You go girl!”. Putting oneself first is so important, and something I tell my friends all the time is “You have a lot of things trying to be a priority in your life. Don’t forget to make yourself and your sanity the top priority”. It took me a while to come to this realization too, and the book “Daring Greatly” by Brene Brown (my absolute favorite book) really helped me with it.


  3. This was not a rambly post at all! You have really made clear the importance of putting yourself first, it’s the best call-to-action we’ll ever know. Thank you for the inspiration!


  4. Realising my own self-worth was also a truly liberating experience for me. I have had people in my life who I treated as friends but who in turn made me feel guilty or judged, who talked behind my back, who didn’t give me the respect true friends should give. It took me a long time to figure out that they didn’t deserve my time or effort, that it wasn’t selfish to separate myself from them. There comes a point – a boundary if you like – where I have to put myself first and look after my own wellbeing. I haven’t completely cut them off, I will still talk to them but I just won’t invest my efforts in trying to form a deeper bond. A good thing that has come out of it is that now I know who my true friends are and I can work on strengthening these relationships. Thanks for sharing such a lovely post, Becca! Keep up the wonderful attitude!


  5. It’s so important to put yourself first sometimes, I have to remind myself occasionally that it’s okay to be selfish and I do matter!


  6. I get that you have to think about others to avoid hurting their feeling but you also have to protect yourself, which means putting yourself first. I completely feel you. It’s a beautiful post and I like how honest you are. Although, cats are cats and mine ignores me but I still like him ahah. xx Corinne from Corinne & Kirsty


  7. I love this! I was the same, always worrying or getting upset and angry about boys or just life. Then I realised that I shouldn’t be doing that, and I derseve to be happy! Everyone deserves happiness! X


  8. I can absolutely relate, a good friend said to me not to settle for anything less than magical. She meant it in terms of a relationship but the general idea of settling for less has generally stuck with me. Onwards and upwards in 2017!


  9. Yass, you go girl! I loved reading this because it’s so inspiring and well written. Loving and putting yourself is so so important and you couldn’t of have said it any better x


  10. Yet another true, honest and inspiring post. I agree with you on everything you say. I hope 2017 is better for you. You definitely have the right attitude.


  11. Love your Putting yourself first blog- you have to chase your dreams, not others,; surround yourself with positive people & attitudes and if you do that anything you want to do is possible!! Just started a new business- did exactly as you say & put myself first!!!😀


  12. This is such a good post! I would definitely be wary to share so much about my emotions online- but the face that you can is so inspiring! Keep it up!

    Rachel x


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