“Hype That.” Over the past 4 months or so, I have undergone some major changes in my life which has helped shape and develop me as a person. It has been a whole collective of learning curves, and I haven’t finished learning yet.
I have been told by the people around me especially how much of a change they have seen in me since I have undergone this ‘change.’ Although my fundamental values of a person are the same, and I am still as happy and bubbly as I was 4 months ago; I feel like new life experiences have made me stronger and given me the experience I needed to become a better person and do better.
One thing I was always scared to do was push toxic people out of my life. I thought that if I did this, I would eventually be left with no one and end up having no friends at the end of the day. This could not be further from the truth. Cutting negative vibes out of my life is the best thing I ever did for myself. From cutting out friends who clearly aren’t “friends” anymore, to realising my own worth. I now know who I need surrounding me in my life- and like the title suggests… like it or lump it.
I won’t be the subject of someone’s constant abuse, or won’t be the subject of someone who constantly puts me down. I will not surround myself with someone that makes me feel any less of a person. I am a human, and I deserve to be treated and respected like one.
When it comes to my own confidence, I have hit a massive milestone and I couldn’t be prouder of myself. Although I have already given an insight into this in some of my previous blog posts, I went from being someone who physically hated their appearance (and beating themselves up for that), to someone who can step out of the house into public and say to myself, “You know what? I am quite confident in my appearance today.”
When it comes to my mental health, I am getting better in some ways. I’m in the mindset now of I can conquer this. And I can, and I will. I am getting help, and I’m not ashamed of that anymore. I am happy, and I will confidently flaunt that. Every little thing I have overcome this year has made me stronger. From my generalized anxiety disorder getting worse, to putting myself back on track. From going through my first break-up, to bouncing back from that doing and being a better person. From getting rid of false friends because I know who is and isn’t good for me, my life and my health.
You either accept who I am now, or you don’t. It’s as simple as that. But who I am now is good for me, and has put me in a position in my life that I’m proud of. In a weird way, I am grateful for everything that life has thrown at me this past year. It’s part of my life journey, and it’s giving me the experience I need in order to develop in myself.
The moments that make me the proudest are those in which people who surround me tell me I look happier, tell me I’m doing well, or that I have changed for the better. It makes me realise that all my progress is worth it and although I don’t live to please others anymore, having their acknowledgement of my development is very humbling and something I can use as motivation to continue to do and be better.
This is not to say that the old me has gone. The old me is still here, and all the values I held 4 months ago are still the same. But, I’m more developed. I’m happier, and I’ve made changes to my lifestyle. The old fundemental parts of me are still around, I’m now just the “upgraded” version of who I was previously.
Love and happiness always,
xo, Becca
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Hey, I’m still new to your blog but this was really inspiring and positive to read! I hope you continue to do well.
Ellie x 🙂
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This was really nice to read! I am going through a similar journey like yours at the moment and starting to see positive results 🙂
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Becca, I’m so happy to read this 💛 I feel similar to you, our stories are quite similar actually with the anxiety and body hatred. I’m so pleased you are able to take stock and review your progress. Fantastic 😊💪
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This was a really good read, so nice to hear that you’ve been making positive changes in your life. Well done lovely 😘 Jess xxx
http://www.whosthatjessann.com
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I always love reading your posts, I find they always spread some positive vibes and I love seeing that your mental is improving!
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another great read! trying to be more positive with life atm.. it can be so hard, but its definately needed right now! X
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This was a great read lovely, I can relate to so much of this! Keep it up girly! Positive posts like these are great motivation to also make that positive change. Laura x
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I went through a similiar period of time in March and I felt exactly the same about pushing toxic people out of my life! X
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I always love reading your posts because they are so relatable! Keep positive lovely, you are a beautiful person, inside and out! x
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Cutting out toxic people is so important but it seems to be one of the most difficult things in life! I hope you continue to progress positively you’re doing great 😘 x
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no one should ever be apologetic for being who they are, or looking the way they do.. this was a really well written post, i could relate to pretty much everything you’re written 🙂 i hope you’re enjoying your sunday! x
Aditi | https://lifeasaditi.wordpress.com
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Ahh go you girl! Cutting toxic people out of your life is so essential now I’ve noticed. It’s scary at first because they masquerade as friends but once they’re gone, it’s like a breath of fresh air. I’m so glad you’re seeing the benefits of changes x
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I totally agree with this post, ever since I started blogging a lot more ‘heavily’, I really feel like it’s helped with my confidence and wellbeing. It’s such a therapeutic hobby to have. Glad you’re feeling more confident and able to shake the toxic beings.
Hazel – fleurcharms.co.uk
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I totally understand what you’re saying with being afraid to cut out toxic people! It’s a really scary thing to do but it feels amazing once they’re gone and you can focus on your confidence and feeling empowered without others bringing you down! 🙌🏼 Thanks for sharing, great post as always!
Abbey ✨ http://www.abbeylouisarose.co.uk
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It was so lovely to read your progress and how the changes you’ve made have improved your life! It’s not easy but it was all you that did that! So inspiring. I recently cut out a very toxic person who dictated my life through manipulation for over a year and a half and I’m so glad they’re gone even if it’s still a bit tough. It is one of the best moves! I hope things continue to get better for you! Keep it up 🙂
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I love how honest you are!✨
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Great inspirational post lovely xxx
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Lovely inspirational post! Amazing X
http://allthingsjadex.blogspot.co.uk
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I love reading your posts, it’s so important to focus on yourself sometimes and surround yourself with positivity 🙂
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This is such a lovely post and I am so glad you are happy!! Keep doing what makes you happy 😊 xx
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such a lovely and inspiring post. keep up the postivity, never let anyone dull your sparkle. xox
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Reblogged this on Victoria.
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Omg!! I’ve just read and you really have inspired me to not only write more but to also overcome obstacles that life throws at you!!xx
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It makes me so happy to read other peoples stories about becoming a stronger person and realising their own self-worth xo
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Great post hun! It’s brilliant that you’re in the mind set of you can conquer this when it comes to your mental health! It’s a great attitude to have.
Jordanne || Thelifeofaglasgowgirl.co.uk
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Good for you! Sprinkle salt on the slug of self-doubt. And kick those frenemies to the kerb, kiddo!
All the best, Sam x
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Taking every day as it comes it what I find helps!!! You can conquer anything lovely, you have such a positive mind set!! You inspire me to do the same xox
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I’m sure a lot of people can relate to the things mentioned in this post and will feel inspired after reading. It’s clear how much happier you are from the way this was written, good job!!
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You are such an inspirational person. I love that about you. Definitely my favorite post.
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Forever inspiring! You deserve to be able to cut of the kind of people you no longer want in your life, glad to see the positivity! As always, loved this post! Thanks for sharing!
Jessica
Foodandbaker.co.uk
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I love this post! I am so glad that you’re so happy and making such positive changes!
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I love this so much, can totally relate to the clearing out of the friend that’s no longer a friend, such a positive step to take. Great post thank you! X
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Love this becca 🙂 keep it up, this post was do inspiring!
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Love this becca! Keep up the good work, this post was so inspiring 🙂
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Thank you so much!! X
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