Who I am now

“Hype That.” Over the past 4 months or so, I have undergone some major changes in my life which has helped shape and develop me as a person. It has been a whole collective of learning curves, and I haven’t finished learning yet.

I have been told by the people around me especially how much of a change they have seen in me since I have undergone this ‘change.’ Although my fundamental values of a person are the same, and I am still as happy and bubbly as I was 4 months ago; I feel like new life experiences have made me stronger and given me the experience I needed to become a better person and do better.

One thing I was always scared to do was push toxic people out of my life. I thought that if I did this, I would eventually be left with no one and end up having no friends at the end of the day. This could not be further from the truth. Cutting negative vibes out of my life is the best thing I ever did for myself. From cutting out friends who clearly aren’t “friends” anymore, to realising my own worth. I now know who I need surrounding me in my life- and like the title suggests… like it or lump it.

I won’t be the subject of someone’s constant abuse, or won’t be the subject of someone who constantly puts me down. I will not surround myself with someone that makes me feel any less of a person. I am a human, and I deserve to be treated and respected like one.

When it comes to my own confidence, I have hit a massive milestone and I couldn’t be prouder of myself. Although I have already given an insight into this in some of my previous blog posts, I went from being someone who physically hated their appearance (and beating themselves up for that), to someone who can step out of the house into public and say to myself, “You know what? I am quite confident in my appearance today.” 

When it comes to my mental health, I am getting better in some ways. I’m in the mindset now of I can conquer this. And I can, and I will. I am getting help, and I’m not ashamed of that anymore. I am happy, and I will confidently flaunt that. Every little thing I have overcome this year has made me stronger. From my generalized anxiety disorder getting worse, to putting myself back on track. From going through my first break-up, to bouncing back from that doing and being a better person. From getting rid of false friends because I know who is and isn’t good for me, my life and my health.

You either accept who I am now, or you don’t. It’s as simple as that. But who I am now is good for me, and has put me in a position in my life that I’m proud of. In a weird way, I am grateful for everything that life has thrown at me this past year. It’s part of my life journey, and it’s giving me the experience I need in order to develop in myself.

The moments that make me the proudest are those in which people who surround me tell me I look happier, tell me I’m doing well, or that I have changed for the better. It makes me realise that all my progress is worth it and although I don’t live to please others anymore, having their acknowledgement of my development is very humbling and something I can use as motivation to continue to do and be better.

This is not to say that the old me has gone. The old me is still here, and all the values I held 4 months ago are still the same. But, I’m more developed. I’m happier, and I’ve made changes to my lifestyle. The old fundemental parts of me are still around, I’m now just the “upgraded” version of who I was previously.

Love and happiness always,

xo, Becca


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36 thoughts on “Who I am now

  1. Hey, I’m still new to your blog but this was really inspiring and positive to read! I hope you continue to do well.
    Ellie x 🙂


  2. Becca, I’m so happy to read this 💛 I feel similar to you, our stories are quite similar actually with the anxiety and body hatred. I’m so pleased you are able to take stock and review your progress. Fantastic 😊💪


  3. Ahh go you girl! Cutting toxic people out of your life is so essential now I’ve noticed. It’s scary at first because they masquerade as friends but once they’re gone, it’s like a breath of fresh air. I’m so glad you’re seeing the benefits of changes x


  4. I totally agree with this post, ever since I started blogging a lot more ‘heavily’, I really feel like it’s helped with my confidence and wellbeing. It’s such a therapeutic hobby to have. Glad you’re feeling more confident and able to shake the toxic beings.

    Hazel – fleurcharms.co.uk


  5. I totally understand what you’re saying with being afraid to cut out toxic people! It’s a really scary thing to do but it feels amazing once they’re gone and you can focus on your confidence and feeling empowered without others bringing you down! 🙌🏼 Thanks for sharing, great post as always!

    Abbey ✨ http://www.abbeylouisarose.co.uk


  6. It was so lovely to read your progress and how the changes you’ve made have improved your life! It’s not easy but it was all you that did that! So inspiring. I recently cut out a very toxic person who dictated my life through manipulation for over a year and a half and I’m so glad they’re gone even if it’s still a bit tough. It is one of the best moves! I hope things continue to get better for you! Keep it up 🙂


  7. Omg!! I’ve just read and you really have inspired me to not only write more but to also overcome obstacles that life throws at you!!xx


  8. I’m sure a lot of people can relate to the things mentioned in this post and will feel inspired after reading. It’s clear how much happier you are from the way this was written, good job!!


  9. Forever inspiring! You deserve to be able to cut of the kind of people you no longer want in your life, glad to see the positivity! As always, loved this post! Thanks for sharing!



  10. I love this so much, can totally relate to the clearing out of the friend that’s no longer a friend, such a positive step to take. Great post thank you! X


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