Letting someone you love grow

This post was, and is, extremely spontaneous to write. After being in a deep thinking mood for the most parts of today, I suddenly came up with this blog post idea. The kind of ideas that I have been wanting to write about for a few months now, but didn’t quite know how.

There are always going to be people who drift in and out of your life, and one person in particular comes to mind when I reflect on this concept of letting people grow. This is someone who is still becoming their own person and still trying to work out what they want out of life.

I’m hesitant to restrain from not saying anything on this matter, because I have been wanting to write about this for a while now. Nevertheless, in the time I knew this person, I was more than happy to give them space to grow. Space to find themselves and who they were, and be there every step of the way. It wasn’t because I felt like I should’ve been obliged to be there; rather that I wanted to.

I cared, and still care, for this person immensely. It’s the kind of care in which you don’t know why it’s such a strong emotion, but it just is. There’s just something, and I still haven’t put my finger to it yet (even 9 months later). Me caring about them also means that I care about who they turn into, and how their growth may be going.

Honestly, I don’t know where this person is at in their life at the moment. I seem to have a clear idea because I seem to know this person better than they even know themselves. The fact of the matter is that it’s always been about them. It’s always been about me wanting to simply be there and try to keep them in track, but also give them room to grow.

I feel like I have been through a lot with this person, both emotionally and in my own growth. I don’t know if they will ever realise the extent in which I care about them, or the extent in which I want to watch them grow into the person that I know they have potential to be. None of this is for my sake, rather because when you love someone, suddenly everything becomes selfless; with this being one of them kinds of moments.

Who knows if this person will ever stumble across this post, but if for some reason they do; it’s good for them to be reminded that even through everything, they have someone who will always care about them unconditionally and selflessly. That this is the sort of person that I’ll think about now and then and hope and pray that they’re living the best life they can. That they live a life full of happiness, even if I’m not part of it. And I guess that’s what I mean by loving and caring about someone selflessly; I don’t have to be in their life to care. I don’t want anything from it- rather, I just want them to become who they’re meant to be and continue to grow into exactly that.

They seriously have the potential to, and after everything I will continue to defend this person. I ultimately see something in them in which a lot of people fail to see. That behind everything, there is someone genuine, loving and caring. Sometimes the most upsetting thing about it all is that they don’t see how glorious and amazing they are. And that’s just it, that’s the whole point of it. Because they are a wonderful human being and no matter what anyone says, they will find the confidence to become just that in their own growth. And what’s even more is that I’ll still be there in the background, even if I’m not going to be apart of their growth directly.

Love and happiness always,

xo, Becca


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53 thoughts on “Letting someone you love grow

  1. I’ve had this in my life with someone similiar they’re no longer in my life and haven’t been for almost three years but I hope they grown into the person they wanted to be

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  2. I love this post, it speaks on so many truths we all have dealt with or dealing with now. Sometimes you have to let someone do close find who they are. This reminds me of Mariah Carey’s song “Butterfly”.

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  3. This found me at the perfect time to be honest. I never really thought about seeing it that way before. But, indeed, this is really a beautiful perspective, a real, genuine humane way of thinking and I absolute love it. Such a beautiful piece of writing. ❤

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  4. This is such a beautiful post. I think it’s a concept a lot of us experience but definitely one that’s hard to put into words! We all definitely grow apart from people at times throughout life, whether that’s them away from us, or us away from them and I have always found that really difficult! It’s made me realise the way you have put it though – just because you aren’t in someone’s life anymore, it doesn’t mean there isn’t a whole lot of love and care there 🙂


  5. I totally feel you about people not understanding how wonderful they are! Some people just don’t understand how great they are and how much potential they have which is sad.


  6. I love your honesty here ❤ Whether they see the post or not it's lovely that you're able to express yourself honesty on here about such a personal topic ❤

    Thanks for such a lovely read, I hope everything works out for you xx



  7. I love how personal this post is, such a beautiful post. I totally agree that you need to allow people space to find themselves, and I wish this person and yourself all the best x


  8. Such a personal post, so thanks for letting us be a part of it. It’s always best to let a person do and be who and where they want to be in life – it could cause so much more damage trying to hold on to someone in a place where they don’t want to be. At the same time, it’s also massively important to remember to care about you too! Following what you feel you need to do in order to be truly happy with the life you live presently. Wishing you all the best #TeaCupClub


  9. What a beautifully written post! It’s very personal and I love that, personal posts are the best! I had a relationship kinda thing just like this with someone and right now we are super close, almost best friends and we both have our own lives, own partners and moving through life but something always draws us together again, not romantically but we will always care for each other in a deep way.

    Jordanne || Thelifeofaglasgowgirl.co.uk

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  10. One of the favourite things I’ve ever read on a blog. So honest and caring. “Me caring about them also means that I care about who they turn into” really struck a chord and meant a lot. Often people think of love in terms of the here and now, the easy, happy, fun times, not the long term shifts and changes and diversions you have to wander through. You should be really proud of thinking about things on these terms Becca! Lots of love x


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