Who I am. What I’m about. Who I’m becoming. If you’ve been following my blog for the past 3 months, you may have heard me refer to my life philosophy. A philosophy that consists on me being a good, nice, genuine person and never wavering from that goal.
My life philosophy isn’t achievable automatically though. I have to make mistakes, do wrong, and work on those mistakes to help make myself a better person. I’ve done things over the past 4 months especially I wish I’d done it differently. But I’m not perfect, but who I am, and who I’m becoming is still the same.
I am also a big believer in forgiveness and being humble. It’s certainly not as easy said as done when someone hurts you immensely, or when someone tries to argue with you and I feel the need to be passive. I would rather live my life being passive and humble to the world around me, rather than anything else. I’m not a big believer in “drama,” and never have been. I understand some people enjoy drama and gossip, but it’s just not me. I would rather keep my distance and exist in my own happy lil bubble- as I call it anyway.
I feel like I’m a hard person to understand. I’m complicated. Sometimes me being different can be a good thing, and other times it can scare me. “What if people think I’m fake?” I’m constantly surrounded by “what if’s” when it comes to my life, and with the fear of people not understanding my life philosophy.
But when you simplify it, all I want to be and become is a good, nice, genuine person who puts others first. As idealistic as it may sound, that’s just who I am. That’s my personality and how I’m programmed and that’s who I’m proud of. As much as people may hate me for it, this is me. Everything you’re reading regarding my life philosophy is me. I’m Becca and I just so happen to thrive off caring for others immensely and from always trying to do the right thing for the benefit of those I love most around me.
My life philosophy helps keep me on track and is extremely important to me. When it comes to other people, their perceptions and how they view me is a fundamental part of shaping who I am. Although I shouldn’t be worried about how people see me, my life philosophy keeps me focused on who I am. I understand that not everyone will understand me, and I’m pretty sure there are people out there who hate my guts. But I know who I am, and that has especially got me through the past couple of weeks. After hearing about someone’s false perception of who I am I suddenly realised, “You know what? I know who I am and that’s all that maters.”
I don’t normally get mad at myself for trying to be good to people. I know and understand that some people are reluctant to forgive, and be kind to others even if they’re not kind back. However, that’s their fault. You can’t put your own genuine personality on the line for someone else who doesn’t appreciate you. Stay true to who you are and everything you’re about, someone (somewhere) accepts and loves that about you.
That’s my life philosophy. The idea that I will always strive to have the best intentions of others at heart, to forgive and not hold grudges, to see both sides of the argument, and be nice and kind to others always. That doesn’t make me naive because I have recently cut out people in my life who are and were toxic to me. But I don’t hate them, and I never could. I do forgive them, but I also know what’s best for me. Live life to the fullest, as much as we may say it- we do truly only live once. “Make this life the best it can be.” Stay humble, always.
Love and happiness always,
xo, Becca
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And your life philosophy is beautiful 🙂
And very relatable to me.
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I am so glad you found it relatable and enjoyed this post- thank you so much lovely. X
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Do you think being nice and being good are the same thing?
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I think your life philosophy is one everyone should have 🙂 Trying to be a nice & genuine person in every situation is amazing & honestly if people see this as being fake they couldn’t be more wrong. Also that sentence is so relatable – ‘I would rather keep my distance and exist in my own lil happy bubble’ love it x
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Thank you so much lovely!! I’m so glad you enjoyed it. X
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This is lovely! Really made me smile. What lovely principles to live by x
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I’m so glad it did!! Thank you so much lovely. X
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That’s an amazing philosophy to go by, you always write such beautiful posts!
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Thank you so much lovely!! 🙈🙈 X
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This is such a beautifully written post! Loved it x
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Thank you!! X
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I agree with your life philosophy, I think it’s important to forgive people and not hold grudges or cause unnecessary drama.
Serena / http://ramblingsofanotherunistudent.blogspot.co.uk
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This genuinely made my heart whole, like all your writing does! Such a beautiful life philosophy, and one I wholeheartedly agree on! xx
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This made me extremely happy- I’m smiling really hard. Thank you for this lovely bit of feedback and I’m so glad you could relate to this post. X
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I couldn’t relate more to your life philosophy ! If only more people in the world would share the same life philosophy, the world could possibly be a nicer, more loving place. Loved reading this! Love, Larice
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Hopefully! Thank you so much lovely. X
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I love this, it is such a good philosophy to live by and I think everyone can relate to it xx
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Your life philosophy is great Becca! I am also one of those people who tend to stay away from drama in my own little bubble too.
-Olivia Xxx
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It’s just so much easier isn’t it?? Thank you for the lovely feedback! X
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It’s nice too see there is still nice and genuine good people out there. I love making people happy too it’s such a nice feeling putting others first ❤️ pixie http://www.pixieox.co
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Thank you so much- this made me vvv happy! X
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I wish more people had a life philosophy like yours, Becca! Being a good person who puts others first are rare priorities these days and it’s wonderful to see you write so well about such fantastic qualities! Stay true to this! 💞
Abbey ✨ http://www.abbeylouisarose.co.uk
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Thank you so much- this made me incredibly happy! I’ll definitely try. X
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This is beautifully written and an amazing philosophy to have X
Hannah | alongsidehannah.blogspot.co.uk
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Thank you so much! X
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I absolutely love this post well done lovely ! you’re exactly right too , as long as you’re doing you and doing what makes you happy that’s all that matters ! x
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It definitely is! Thank you lovely. X
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What a beautifully written post! I see a lot of myself in there – I think your life philosophy is a good one. I find nothing wrong with putting others first. I’m always like that and probably will always be like it! x
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It’s a good trait to have! #kindnessfirst X
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Beautiful post, well done Becca. Love it xx
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I totally agree!!! Loved this post :)xx
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It’s good to have a philosophy in life!!
Lorna | eatmyyythoughts.com
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I think this is a philosophy everyone should have! Such a beautifully written post too
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Thank you so much! X
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This is such a great post! I’ve loved following your philosophy journey and it has really inspired me to think more about my own ❤
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Thank you so much for continuously reading my blog- I’m so glad it’s helped even a lil bit! X
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Everything you mentioned I agree with, and things I go by! I do forgive people, just takes me a while to forget what they’ve done! This post has opened my eyes! Thank you! X
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I’m so glad, thank you so much! X
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Really great post, enjoyed reading!
Jade
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Such a lovely post, very well written. I think you’ve got a great approach to liverify by. I’ll always try and put others before myself and treat people how I’d like to treated.
Sharon x
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Thank you so much lovely- I’m glad you enjoyed it. X
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I could read your blog all day! – another great post lovely xx
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This made me extremely happy! Thank you so much lovely. X
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This is such a good life philosophy! I also love how much you shared as this is quite a personal thing! Thank you for being so open!
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Thank you!! X
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It’s important to stay true to yourself. We should all have a life philosophy and yours is lovely.
Amber – ambambe.com xx
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What a lovely post! Such a positive post, and a great read X
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Lovely post! Especially loved this “Sometimes me being different can be a good thing, and other times it can scare me.” I read a diary entry of mine that said something very similar – that sometimes I hate being weird! Being yourself is so important though! Haters can hate (as the young people say) x
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Yes definitely! It’s scary being different, but sometimes it can be a good thing. Thank you so much for the lovely feedback. X
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You’re very welcome! Really like the stuff you have posted recently 🙂
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This is great and I think that it’s a wonderful philosophy to live by. Really positive post, thank you for sharing!
Kate | http://www.paintingoctober.blogspot.com
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Thank you so much lovely! X
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I love this so much! You’ve a beautiful life philosophy ❤
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Thank you so much!! X
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You’re very similar to me! I love that you want to be as kind as possible, that’s always the best way to be. Kindness is more important than people can imagine! Great post ❤
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Yes definitely!! Kindness is so fundamental, especially nowadays x
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Love love this post. Kindness is so important xx
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Thank you so much lovely! X
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I’ve always been taught to forgive, my grandma always says to me never go to bed on an argument, which is right you never know what’s going to happen
Tasha x
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This is extremely true!! X
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Beautiful. What actions does your life philosophy create through you?
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I feel like it’s hard to understand me too…;(
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I used to be awful at forgiving, i always wanted to keep a grudge but i realized that it is worse off for you over anyone else x
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You word things in a lovely way! Definitely saving this post ❤
Gorgeous blog. Do you want to follow each other maybe? Let me know! x
Joanne | Life in Blue Skies
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Thank you so much lovely!!! X
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I just randomly came across this and I’m so happy I did! This post reminds me a lot of myself which makes me happy!! Keep doing you, this rocks.
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I just randomly came across this and I’m so happy I did! This post reminds me a lot of myself which makes me happy!! Keep doing you, this rocks.
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People will always misunderstand you. You’re right, though, all that matters is that YOU know who you are.
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Great post,
well I don’t believe that we make mistakes in our life.I think it was only a lessons that we must learn to matured
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You life philosophy is like a ray of sunshine! Keep staying true to yourself and good things will continue to manifest xxx
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