This seems like such a bold statement, and in some ways, it is. You are a human being, and you shouldn’t be defined by expectations. Embrace your uniqueness and quirkiness and don’t apologise to anyone who puts that down.
Embrace who you are, and who you’re becoming. It’s such a learning process, and it deserves to be shouted about- not neglected. I am not for one minute suggesting that you shouldn’t apologise for malicious actions of wrongdoing- that’s a whole other topic.
When it comes down to it, if everyone was the same the world would be so boring. I feel as though we seem to make this point all the time, but it’s incredibly accurate. We live in a world with a mixture of wonderful human beings. Each with their own unique souls and traits. For one quality you hold, someone else lacks and vise versa. I don’t know about you, but that makes your qualities you do hold even more special. There’s no one else like you in this world.
And if someone makes you apologise for who you are, then make them apologise. Make them apologise for making you feel any less than worthy of existing in your own skin. If someone tells you to stop laughing, laugh harder. If someone asks you why you’re always happy, throw your positive vibes in their face. For every one thing that someone dislikes about you, someone else adores. You’re pretty rad, I’ll give you that.
There will always be people that may dislike you, and that’s okay. You could be the kindest, most compassionate person, and still have people dislike you and what you’re about. Let them. Use that as motivation to be yourself even more. You are who you are, and if anyone shames that, then they are not worth your precious time. If someone doesn’t give you the time of day to flaunt your incredible personality, then that’s their loss. For someone who constantly lets people’s false perceptions of myself get to me, I’ve realised it’s not worth it. Find enough confidence within yourself to tell yourself, “I’m actually a pretty decent human being.” (You’re most likely right with that point).
When it comes to myself, I often apologise for who I am and for things which are simply out of my control. I have slowly began to realise that I simply shouldn’t.
I am at a point in my own self right now where I am confident and happy in who I am, and who I’m becoming most importantly. My little life philosophy consists of simply being a good, nice person, and I will never apologise for that. I’ve set myself personal goals of who I want to be, and what I want to achieve; and although I may fail at that sometimes, the ambition never wavers. I am who I am. And I am who I’m becoming.
On the mental health side of things, I shouldn’t have to apologise for that either. I shouldn’t have to and will not apologise for having a panic attack, or high anxious moments because it happens. It’s out of my control, and it can’t be helped.
Overall, ‘you’ is pretty amazing. Wear it. Flaunt it. Shout it from the roof tops. Strive to do better and be better, but don’t apologise in the process. You are totally fine and wonderful exactly as you are and that deserves to be reminded more. I’m not some girl saying this for the sake of it. It genuinely upsets me how many glorious people are around who simply don’t realise it. That one is for you reading this. I believe there is good in everyone, and that includes you.
Just because the colour shade your wearing is different to someone else’s, doesn’t make you any less important or your ‘colour’ any less spectacular.
Love and happiness always,
xo, Becca
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Aw this made me smile and feel really good about myself! Thanks for that! X
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I’m so glad!!!! You’re very welcome.🙈x
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I agree – we need to stop apologizing for something we can’t control. I.e. Anxiety disorder.
P.s. I love this font you use!!!
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Such a lovely post. Love your spunk!! I agree–no apologies for who you are!!! X
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Great article. Everyone needs to feel great about themselves! X
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I totally agree! Years ago I used to be like this and now I’m not, I don’t apologize for being myself or anything like that. Great advice X
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I’m so glad you’re finding confidence in yourself!! Thank you so much lovely. X
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This is so empowering to read! You’re right though, we shouldn’t have to apologize for who we are but instead love ourselves for what we are.
-Olivia Xxxx
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Yessss! X
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Love this post I’ve been feeling so down at the minute thank you for your post it is relatable and really cheered me up!! pixie xxx http://www.pixieox.co
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I’m so glad it cheered you up!!!! I’m always here.💛💛💛
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Thank you becca ❤️❤️❤️
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I absolutely LOVE this post ! preach it guuuurl ! well said , so true ! x
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THANKS GURLLLL X
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Totally this is so true
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I completely agree we are who we are we should embrace that!
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This is such a lovely post, it’s such an amazing feeling just being able to be yourself and it’s probably something I only recently realised. It’s not about caring what everyone thinks about you, friends family and partners know and love the real me and that’s what matter most xx
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Definitely!!! X
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I love hos positive this is and what a great message it is sending to everyone reading it. I do need to remember everything you’ve said here and try to remind myself of it on a daily basis!
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Thank you so much lovely! 🙈X
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such a good post, I think its hard these days to fully be yourself but good for you!
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Thank you!! X
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I love this! Be who you want to be not who the world wants you to be is one of my favourite quotes
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OH YESSS C
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I could not agree with this more! I used to always apologize to people for being a big nerd but I couldn’t anymore.
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EMBRACE THAT!!! Nothing wrong with being a nerd, I am too at heart 🙂 x
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I think we all are deep down. We just don’t always bring it out.
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Such an amazing post and so well written. I think the older I get the more I’m learning to embrace who I am and gain confidence in who I am. Jess xxx
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This makes me so happy and I’m so glad you’re gaining confidence! Thank you for the lovely feedback. X
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Love this post!!
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Really like this Becca 🙂 x
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Lovely post, and I totally agree – you are you and that is not something to be ashamed of in any way! x
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YESSS! EMBRACE IT x
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In love with this post and your words! Such a positive message – just be you! The crazier the better xxx
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Oh yesss! Thank you lovely. X
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Great post! This is so true. I definitely needed this! Thankyou
Jade x
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I’m so glad it’s helped even a lil bit. Thank YOU for the lovely feedback. X
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This is exactly the kind of thinking I have started adopting lately and I am really and truly happier. I wish more people will start embracing their uniqueness.
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Yesss! So glad you’re feeling a bit more confident in yourself 💪🏻X
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This made me smile. Love a bit of positivity before I fall asleep!
Lovely post xo
Lois
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I’m so glad it did!! 🙈 Xx
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You should never have to apologise for who you are, if someone asks you to apologise you should ask yourself are they really worth it?
Tasha x
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Very true!!! X
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I actually print screened some of this to have on my phone. Really lovely post ❤️
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I hope it helps again in the future- thank you so much lovely!!! X
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I agree! I think this is something that comes as you get a bit older as well. Being yourself is so important, great post. Well done you! X
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I’ve heard that a lot too! Thank you for the lovely feedback. X
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This is so true! In the hustle bustle of life and watching beautiful and #goals people on social media we have forgotten to embrace ourselves! We try to copy them! We are ashamed to be ourselves. LOVE THIS POST! ♡
Haniya
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Being yourself is the best way I’ve found!! I’m so glad you enjoyed it lovely- THANK YOU X
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Your style of writing is so comforting! Amazing blog post, more people should be proud of who they are ☉
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I’m so glad!!! That’s made me so happy, thank you.🙈X
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Love this post as always! Especially the bit about people may not always like you, I really struggle with accepting that sometimes 😣 Xxx
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So do I!!! I get myself down over people hating me all the time- even if it’s totally not true. Thank you for the lovely feedback X
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This is such a lovely post! It reminds me of the Oscar Wilde quote that I try to live by, “Be yourself; everybody else is already taken.” – it’s definitely a super important message for everyone!
Amy x
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YESS! I live by that quote too X
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This is such a beautiful post Becca I really did love it! xx
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I’m so glad, that’s made me so happy!! Thank you lovely. X
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I love your thought and writings. So inspiring and make me feel good about myself. Ty 💕
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This made me so happy!! I’m so glad they help even a lil bit.💘
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I love this post ! A lot of people think I’m weird because of how my personality is but I am trying to not let their whispering get to me.
-Aby
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EMBRACEEE THATTT C
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What a lovely post. Just what I needed to read before I head off to uni.
Tabitha x X
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I’m so glad!! Thank you for the lovely feedback. X
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Wow! What an inspirational read! People at work need to read this to understand my thoughts exactly!
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Such a great read! 🙂 been struggling recently but this makes total sense to me Xx
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This ❤
You should never have to apologise for your mental health, I've always strongly believed that!
All the best
– Megan / http://www.meganmarieblogs.blogspot.com
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I couldn’t agree more with this. Using toxic language like “I’m not good enough” or “that person is better than me” doesn’t get you anywhere. Re-framing it to say that you are “different” from someone else is much better. You’re right – it IS something to shout about. x
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I’m so glad you liked this post- thank you so much for the lovely feedback. X
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Aw this was such a lovely post! I really enjoyed reading it as I was teased (not bullied) in school for the things I liked and my social awkwardness, but as I’ve gotten older I’ve just accepted that’s who I am and I really couldn’t care what people think ❤
I hope someone who doesn't feel comfortable in their own shell comes across this as it's such a reassuring post 🙂 xx
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What a lovely post! and very well written might I add. I wish my younger self could have seen this x
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