Before blogging or writing down my thoughts, I never had a “therapy” if you like for handling hurt. I kinda just muddled my way through it and hoped for the best.
I’ve now realised that the key way in which I heal is words. Whether that’s writing my thoughts in a blog post, on a piece of paper, or poetry. It’s like my heart pours out onto paper and helps me relieve all the stress in my head.
After picking up Rupi Kaur’s “Milk and Honey” book (which you should totally read and check out), I came to the realisation that heartbreak is normal- and using words as a therapy for that is totally okay.
While I hate to admit I’ve hurt over the past few months, words have helped me express all that pain and anger into something beautiful. I never normally write poetry, but tonight I got so wrapped up in my thoughts and my feelings that I came across this amazing concept for some poems regarding time.
I’ve found that time is the greatest healer of all. I look back over the past 3 months, and find it baffling how I’ve got to this point from such a dark place to complete happiness. Time passes. And it heals us. Put your faith in it more often, it works wonders.
I’ve decided to share some of my poems that I created tonight with you all. After all, words say a lot, and I feel happier knowing my thoughts and feelings are somewhere greater than my mind- how broad and gigantic the Internet world can be. Enjoy the rollercoaster that is my healing heart.
9am
I became enchanted by you
4pm
I dated you
6pm
You became mine
2pm
I gave my all
– may fourth
12pm
You broke me
4pm
You asked for me again
6am
We talked and ended it all
And they say time heals.
I’m especially proud of this series of writing. Whilst thinking about the past, I realised just how quickly time can change. This poem especially helped because it puts things into perspective. It made me realise that all this happened, and I’m still here. Time heals.
You asked me to stay
Then left
And now
You have left
Longer than you stayed
– time
It’s funny how fast time passes when you’re “in the moment.” When you’re so wrapped up in life. I recently reflected on this, and realised that time can go just as quick when someone leaves. My own recovery, and my own happiness has led me to live the fullest life that I can at this moment in time. It’s all about time, and how you make use of it.
I cried
Until I became familiar
With the pain of loss
I still cry
But I’ve learnt
How to do it silently
– whisper
And finally, this reflects my current status of “hurt.” The pain of loss can take a human a while to come to terms with. Thankfully, I’m at that stage where I’ve come to terms with it, and I no longer hurt “publically.” But that doesn’t mean I still don’t occasionally sometimes hurt silently. It hits me somedays. Whether that’s 2am, or 2pm. And sometimes it won’t hit me at all. That’s the whisper of time.
All in all, I’ve realised that it’s okay to hurt and use writing as your therapy. It’s okay to create something utterly beautiful out of something so painful. Loss comes in all shapes and sizes.
Love and happiness always,
xo, Becca
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This whole post is so beautifully written, it’s so good to see you’re okay with feeling hurt and can slowly but surely piece the parts back together. Keep going strong lovely! xo
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I am!! Time certainly has healed and made me feel SO much better. Thank you for the lovely feedback X
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I already said this on Instagram but I am so getting this book! I just recently got into poetry & writing my own poems as well and aaah I love it so much 🙂 I really really like the ones you wrote, if you keep writing them I’d definitely love to see more x
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I love milk and honey too- it’s such an insightful and empowering book. Thank you for the feedback lovely X
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I adore Milk and Honey and the four sections its broken into. Loved this post, I would love to read some more of your work. Steph x
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Ahh thank you so much!! I have fallen in love with that book, I find it so eye opening and empowering X
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Its definitely ok to feel down or hurt, the poem are so good!
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Thank you so much! X
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Beautiful writing! ❤ Glad you find writing as useful therapy!
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This is so well written, I love your writing! I agree time does heal so much X
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Such a beautifully written post!!
Lorna | eatmyyythoughts.blogspot.co.uk
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Such a great post I love poetry, I like to write poems too such a good way to express yourself. Pixie xx http://www.pixieox.co
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beccaaaaaa, this post is amazing! you don’t need a boy to be happy!
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I know!!!!!!!!!!! I was strong and independent before, and I sure as hell am now too :))))) thanks conzzz
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I agree, time is definitely the best healer and I wish I had found out have therapeutic writing was a few years ago when I was hurting the most
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This post is so moving! I love it!
Abbie-x
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Beautifully written. Never read “milk and honey” but may have to give it a try.
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You should! I absolutely ADORE that book X
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Nice post! I’ve always used the written word to express myself (stories, poems) because I was (and still am) unable to properly express my feelings.
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This is beautiful. It’s lovely to see you openly writing about how you’ve hurt and showing how you deal with it! It’s nice to read a post like this that really opens the eyes! X
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Thank you so much for this lovely comment!! I was scared about writing this, and publishing my work on my blog but at the end of the day, it’s my feelings and I made something pretty beautiful out of that. Thank you once again! X
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You really did! It’s a lovely post to read well done xx
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Love your style of writing! Great informative post with great advice.
Love your blog so very much.
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Beautiful post ❤️
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I can definitely relate with using writing as your therapy when you are hurting, and some months ago I had come to a point where pain was within me everyday and I was not okay with it and I think writing and reading authors like rupi kaur did help me.
I loved reading this! xx
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Thank you so much!! Writing definitely has helped me over the past few months, pretty crazy isn’t it?? X
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Aww I love this post! Love your poems xo
Beth
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Beautiful! x
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This is beautiful. Really intrigued about this book now. Thanks for sharing!
Jessica
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Wow what a beautiful post!! Poetry always gives me goosebumps. I must pick up milk & honey!!
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Absolutely love this post💓
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Therapists are lame and not helpful! some people need to heal their way which they have to suffer a little to figure it out. I discovered 2 books about healing in similar posts, so def going to check yours GIGI x
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I agree- sometimes self therapy can be the best form of healing! X
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It’s a great way to deal with hurt through writing, and so important to know that feeling hurt is okay as long as you cope in healthy ways!
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I’ll take a look at Milk and Honey, it sounds like it’s worth a read! This post was beautifully written- you’re very good at poetry!
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This is really lovely, thank you for sharing! Your blog is really great, you seem so lovely too, let me know if you would like to keep in touch I love meeting new blogger friends! x
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Aww thank you so much! X
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This post is truly inspiring x I Had a rough time during parts of the summer there were many days when I just didn’t want to get up and felt utterly terrible but then I bought a journal and started writing my days and I have to say it really helps to just let it all out on paper because then you know it’s not just stuck in your head x I love your poems xx
Great post x
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Thank you so much lovely!! I’ve found that writing it all down really helps too. X
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